How Did We Get Here by Mpoomy Ledwaba

How Did We Get Here? is Mpoomy Ledwaba's best-selling coming-of-age story. Looking back on her upbringing, major milestones and the challenges she’s faced, Mpoomy takes us on her journey of self-discovery. Order your copy here👉: https://www.amazon.co.za/How-Did-We-Get-Here/dp/1776193865 Sign up for the Wisdom & Wellness Private Membership: https://sales.wisdomwellness.co.za/signup Welcome to Season 8 of the Wisdom & Wellness Podcast We’re opening the year with a powerful, honest conversation about abundance, responsibility, rest, and becoming the person who can carry what they’re praying for. In this episode, Mpoomy and Brenden unpack God’s timing versus personal delay, the difference between kindness and niceness, why root work matters more than visible success, and how character, not personality, determines longevity. Timestamps and Show Notes: 1:50 - Wisdom & Wellness Membership Invitation: An invitation into a community for women seeking belonging, accountability, and growth. 3:08 - Kindness vs Niceness: Mpoomy and Brenden reflect on being seen as “kind” and why kindness and niceness are not the same. Inspired by a Trevor Noah clip. 5:37 - When Niceness Isn’t Kind: We’re called to be kind, not always nice. Sometimes love looks like firmness and calling things out early so people can grow. 8:56 - Icebreaker: 2025 in One Word 10:07 - Abundance Snapshot: Mpoomy and Brenden name one small thing that feels abundant right now. 10:16 - Defining Abundance (John 10:10): Abundance as more than overflow, rooted in dominion, fruitfulness, multiplication, and eternal perspective. 12:55 - Enough vs Abundance: Enough is comfort and provision. Abundance is margin, luxury, and overflow. 13:23 - Family as Abundance: Brenden describes family as a rope made of threads, losing one thread doesn’t mean losing the rope. A powerful reframe after loss. 15:56 - Rest as Abundance: Rest as a sign of trust. Letting go of identity tied to productivity and learning that God still holds everything together. 23:38 - The Lag Between the Word and Reality: Why people lose hope between promise and fulfillment, and how perseverance bridges the gap. 25:39 - Diligence Before Disappointment: Exhaust every resource before blaming the delay. Having resources is not the same as being resourceful. 28:31 - God’s Timing vs Personal Responsibility: God’s timing is perfect, but unnecessary wilderness seasons are often self-inflicted. 29:57 - Roots vs Fruits 32:25 - Courting, Boundaries and Earned Vulnerability: Vulnerability as a root that’s earned, not rushed. The role of boundaries in healthy intimacy. 37:01 - Be the Person Before the Promise. 38:37 - Be Inspired by Habits, Not Highlights: We admire what people have, but transformation comes from copying their habits. 42:34 - Personality vs Character 44:02 - Choosing Character Over Comfort: Moving beyond “this is just who I am” and stepping into the character required for the room. 49:09 - Principles, Laws and Outcomes: Emotion doesn’t override principle. God’s laws still apply, regardless of tears or trauma. 50:46 - Prayer as Partnership and Dominion 53:13 - Reflecting on the Wellness House and Sunday: Lessons from building something new and stewarding vision faithfully. 53:37 - Starting Again With the Fundamentals 58:02 - Highlight of 2025 58:22 - The Power of Firsts: Celebrating generational breakthroughs, when one win opens a gate for many. Follow Mpoomy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mpoomy_ledwaba/?hl=en TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mpoomyledwaba?lang=en Follow Wisdom & Wellness: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wisdomwellness_/ Facebook: Wisdom & Wellness Website: www.wisdomwellness.co.za Sign up for Mpoomy’s newsletter: https://wisdomwellness.myflodesk.com/voszjo74h0 Listen to Wisdom & Wellness Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop Tuesday! Spotify: https://lnkd.in/d4iwvUDV Apple Podcasts: https://lnkd.in/d654Yv5D Like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this conversation.